how to validate someone who won’t talk with you

We occasionally find ourselves in the situation where someone we love deeply refuses to communicate with us. In this video I present six strategies for transmitting validation across the divide. (A text version of this content is available here). I sincerely hope you find this material useful in your own life! Please let me know how […]

power and the art of seduction

In my last post, “power and sexual technique”, I urged women to gain leverage in their romantic relationships by increasing their skill in bed. More importantly, I developed this idea as a strategy transgender women may employ to decrease their overall marginalization—to help close the power differential that exists when straight men sexualize us for […]

ten ways to deliver class (part #1)

“Class” strategically combines humility with knowing you stand a cut above the masses. And now we begin writing about class. “Class” is: Knowing when to lead and performing it gracefully. Knowing when to follow and performing it gracefully. Returning your shopping cart to the requested place. Realizing the full humanity in those who serve you […]