celebrating myself this Valentine’s Day

No significant other shares their life with me, a fact that usually annoys me on Valentine’s Day. This year I decided not to fuss about it, choosing instead to celebrate my healthy love for myself. So I’m wearing cute Valentine’s Day lingerie for my own joy. Girls, if you find yourself single next Valentine’s Day, […]

spinning masculinity into a seduction tool

Last night at my favorite bar I found myself flirting with two stunning women. Delivered bold masculine technique punctuated by proud feminine presence. I stood out hot and I knew it. Through my maneuvering I made it extremely clear which side of the tracks I walked on that night. A man in their party saw […]

power and the art of seduction

In my last post, “power and sexual technique”, I urged women to gain leverage in their romantic relationships by increasing their skill in bed. More importantly, I developed this idea as a strategy transgender women may employ to decrease their overall marginalization—to help close the power differential that exists when straight men sexualize us for […]

power and sexual technique

Competence proves extremely sexy. My firm desire (pun intended) is that all women, particularly transgender women, take complete ownership over their presence and their bodies. Presence emits power. Ownership delivers power. Here I refer to “power” in a feminine network sense, enabling women full constructive influence within the relationships they build and expand. These relationships […]

how to validate someone who won’t talk with you (text version)

(A video version of this content is available here). In my post “on love“, I describe active validation of one’s beloved as a key tactic for transmitting constructive love. I further discuss how that validation must express in terms of things eternal, rather than in terms of the one sending the validation. In other words, […]

Grrl on Grrl Podcast interviewed me!

Today my interview with Grrl on Grrl Podcast came out!  We discuss, among other things, The science of gender identity The music of Axis Evil “Ladylike” behavior as a source of personal empowerment Cultural appropriation Psychosexuality Model minorities Big thanks to June Owatari of Grrl on Grrl Podcast for working so hard to put this […]

make an intent board

Optimism is a skill. A simple exercise that strengthens your focus and direction involves creating an “intent board”, also called a “dream board” or a “vision board”. These serve me well in life! Basically, you make a poster, or in my case a Pinterest board, called “Intent” and fill it with images that speak to […]

radical forgiveness

(A text version of this video is available here). Forgiveness is radical in and of itself, and I encourage each of you to promote the revolution that it demands. Moreover, I encourage each of you to take forgiveness to radical levels, in other words, to practice a doctrine of “radical forgiveness”. The following video introduces […]

radical forgiveness (text version)

(A video version of this post may be found here). Forgiveness proves radical in and of itself, and I encourage each of you to promote the revolution that it demands. Moreover, I encourage each of you to take forgiveness to radical levels, in other words, to practice a doctrine of “radical forgiveness”. We all get […]

at a wedding in Delhi

One of the most amazing experiences of my journey into womanhood occurred when I attended a wedding in Delhi. The bride knew me before I transitioned, but immediately embraced my identity as Emily when I announced it. We quickly became extremely good friends, and I therefore eagerly attended her wedding when the time came. I […]