Last night at my favorite bar I found myself flirting with two stunning women. Delivered bold masculine technique punctuated by proud feminine presence. I stood out hot and I knew it. Through my maneuvering I made it extremely clear which side of the tracks I walked on that night. A man in their party saw […]
Folks generally consider it a bad idea to date coworkers. But I have a specific reason why I support the idea: Safety. Here is the thing: Dating while trans is difficult—and dangerous. Transgender women often become death statistics. Therefore meeting in person with a stranger whom I first met online scares the shit out of […]
Now that I have experience dating both men and women, I’ve noticed that I hold men to higher standards than women: I care how much money they make. I care more about how stable a man’s career is than I do with women. I’m willing to end the relationship based on more minor flaws. There […]
For the first time in my life, I am worried about what to wear on a first date. I wouldn’t worry so much if it was with another woman, but this date is with a guy. For some reason I feel I need to be more physically impressive with guys. Or maybe “cute”. I’ll fill […]
A man I am flirting with (rather seriously) expects me to cook for him if I become “his woman”. This really turns me on. A complete and somewhat feminist deconstruction of why I like this so much is available in my post “double agent for the patriarchy“.
I identify my music as “transgender” in that it emits from my experience as a transgender person. Sometimes directly—I occasionally write songs specifically about transgender issues—but usually less directly. Here I deconstruct this musical identity in my work, and provide example songs to illustrate. My primary goal as a musician is to strengthen the transgender […]