reconstructing my life from scratch (part #1: radical kindness, and dresses)

As expressed previously on this blog (see “the trick to changing your gender…”), I habitually reconstruct my life. This skill proved essential to my public transition and continually issues economic dividends. I now stand at an inflection point where I need to reinvent myself again from scratch. You see, the last five years delivered unprecedented […]

taking abuse for not being “ladylike” enough

I expect that many women receive abuse from their loved ones for not being “feminine” enough, by which these loved ones mean not being “ladylike” enough. I received such abuse for the first time in my life last night, from a mentor and dear friend. He is a keen observer of woman and generally a […]

poise, leadership, and mindfulness

I think a lot about poise: How to cultivate it, how to maintain it, what it means. I also think (and write) much about leadership. Concluded that the two overlap substantially. Further concluded that mindfulness forms the glue that holds them together. Please permit me to elaborate: Recently I developed my own description of poise […]

publishing a cry for relief

Here is a letter I wrote about four weeks ago. I’m publishing it now because these stories must be made public for the world to become a better place: ———–, I’m sorry but I’m extremely suicidal and need (and wholeheartedly trust) your intervention. You know I’m no drama queen, you know I struggle with mental […]