declaring myself an arbiter of proper ladylike behavior

Today I officially declared myself an arbiter of proper ladylike behavior. Issued the announcement via Twitter and Facebook: Obviously I’m not a perfect lady myself, having immediately mocked the whole concept by using foul language in the second sentence of the announcement tweet. But this speaks to a fundamental issue: A proper lady will not […]

I figured out this whole “ladylike” thing today

“A ‘lady’ is a woman who, through her mere presence, simultaneously commands power while setting others at ease.” – Emily Marie Williams I achieved public womanhood on 14 July 2015 when I declared myself a woman before a judge and started living full-time as one. But as discussed several times on this blog, I work […]

Grrl on Grrl Podcast interviewed me!

Today my interview with Grrl on Grrl Podcast came out!  We discuss, among other things, The science of gender identity The music of Axis Evil “Ladylike” behavior as a source of personal empowerment Cultural appropriation Psychosexuality Model minorities Big thanks to June Owatari of Grrl on Grrl Podcast for working so hard to put this […]

corset hazard

I wear corsets regularly, such as the one pictured below: For reasons explained in my post “corset training”, I’m going nearly full-time with these. What makes the one above suitable for daily waist training is that it is heavy duty—steel boned. Particular to the needs of transwomen, it’s made for long torsos and comes from […]

my obsession (part 1: introduction)

My primary obsession and my number one suicide prevention technique relate to each other. First the suicide prevention technique: I maximize my femininity and feminine expression. Do not know why this works, because the most frequent driver of suicidal ideation for me has nothing to do with gender dysphoria (it’s heartbreak). But emphasizing femininity really […]

poise, leadership, and mindfulness

I think a lot about poise: How to cultivate it, how to maintain it, what it means. I also think (and write) much about leadership. Concluded that the two overlap substantially. Further concluded that mindfulness forms the glue that holds them together. Please permit me to elaborate: Recently I developed my own description of poise […]

working out my concept of “lady” (part 2: my revolutionary demand)

I’m developing a vision of what “being a lady” means to me (and only me!), with the full intent to live it out boldly and dramatically for the rest of my life. Notice I said “lady” here, not “woman”. I feel I have to constantly remind people that these are different concepts. As I’ve stated […]

corset training

I started corset training yesterday. Never wore one before but decided to start. I’m going fulltime with it, for a variety of reasons: The prime reason is to share solidarity with women of class going back several centuries. I want to experience the waist training they endured. I want to more completely identify with them. […]

“evaluation” and response

A mentor and absolutely wonderful friend of mine provided the following unsolicited, and difficult, “evaluation” of my transition. It is extremely welcome. I respond below. Evaluation METHOD ACTING… “Wearing your heart on your sleeve” Smiling when greeting people with the body language representing comfort and happiness represent a ‘warm and healthy attitude’… “What ever others think […]