the pedagogy of love

We don’t teach teenagers and young adults what romantic love actually is. And we sure as Hell can’t leave it up to parents, who often lack the knowledge themselves. In my recent post, “on love”, I deconstructed and then worked to enrich the concept of romantic love. I discuss mistakes I’ve made and promote keys […]

transgender people love

Lost in the ongoing ecclesiastical debate about whether transgender identities hold validity in the eyes of God [1] are interactions between (cisgender) Christian thinkers and transgender individuals themselves, particularly those of faith. Many faith-leaders and Christian scholars intellectualize us into sub-humanity:  Their idea is that God made humans male and female strictly in God’s own […]

on love

Thought it time to write an essay (of sorts) on the nature of love: Here I specifically mean Romantic love, partnership love; not other kinds. I won’t throw Greek words at you to differentiate between the types of love as many writers do (e.g. C.S. Lewis), except I thought I’d decide to use the term […]

two years and seven love songs (with lyrics)

Axis Evil, the musical arm of this outreach effort, turns two years old this Valentine’s Day. As the project music started out of romantic frustration (with the song “Talk”), I thought I’d post the seven love songs I have written in the last two years. Also, I intend to reference these as a group in […]

new song: “Stunt Double (You Will Always Be My Friend)”

Recording Stunt Double (You Will Always Be My Friend) by Axis Evil How I Recorded It I recorded this in my RV using GarageBand and a USB audio interface, pictured below. Played with a guitar slide and ran the resulting signal through GarageBand’s sitar emulator to produce the ghostly, bluesy sound. Lyrics A stunt-double in […]

taking abuse for not being “ladylike” enough

I expect that many women receive abuse from their loved ones for not being “feminine” enough, by which these loved ones mean not being “ladylike” enough. I received such abuse for the first time in my life last night, from a mentor and dear friend. He is a keen observer of woman and generally a […]

the ideal woman (Hell’s r&d department)

I’m simply going to quote the section on creating the “ideal woman” from the Screwtape Letters. You can purchase the book in multiple formats here. In a rough and ready way, of course, this question is decided for us by spirits far deeper down in the Lowerarchy than you and I. It is the business of […]

holding onto gifts I’d planned to give

While in Rajasthan last December, I purchased a necklace I’d hoped to one day give “Carol”, and while in Kashmir I was given a headscarf that I’d hoped to give immediately to another woman (let’s call her “Susan”—as I never publish real names). Suffice to say that neither opportunity arose and I still have these […]

a perceived bluff and an honorable suicide

I am not a rational person, and this is not a rational story. It started three weeks ago. The inflection points nearly killed me. Some background: I’ve romantically loved a woman whom I’ve called “Carol” on this blog consistently for the last two years. She rejected my advance and cut me out of her life […]