declaring myself an arbiter of proper ladylike behavior

Today I officially declared myself an arbiter of proper ladylike behavior. Issued the announcement via Twitter and Facebook: Obviously I’m not a perfect lady myself, having immediately mocked the whole concept by using foul language in the second sentence of the announcement tweet. But this speaks to a fundamental issue: A proper lady will not […]

I figured out this whole “ladylike” thing today

“A ‘lady’ is a woman who, through her mere presence, simultaneously commands power while setting others at ease.” – Emily Marie Williams I achieved public womanhood on 14 July 2015 when I declared myself a woman before a judge and started living full-time as one. But as discussed several times on this blog, I work […]

big time

I’ve noticed that the Universe consistently validates my femininity, and (it feels like) little else right now. Best to run with what’s going well… Update 13 November 2017 What this is about:  The femininity expressed up to the point of my public transition was instinctive. Now I am learning the strategic and the tactical expressions, […]

taking abuse for not being “ladylike” enough

I expect that many women receive abuse from their loved ones for not being “feminine” enough, by which these loved ones mean not being “ladylike” enough. I received such abuse for the first time in my life last night, from a mentor and dear friend. He is a keen observer of woman and generally a […]

poise, leadership, and mindfulness

I think a lot about poise: How to cultivate it, how to maintain it, what it means. I also think (and write) much about leadership. Concluded that the two overlap substantially. Further concluded that mindfulness forms the glue that holds them together. Please permit me to elaborate: Recently I developed my own description of poise […]

working out my concept of “lady” (part 2: my revolutionary demand)

I’m developing a vision of what “being a lady” means to me (and only me!), with the full intent to live it out boldly and dramatically for the rest of my life. Notice I said “lady” here, not “woman”. I feel I have to constantly remind people that these are different concepts. As I’ve stated […]

“evaluation” and response

A mentor and absolutely wonderful friend of mine provided the following unsolicited, and difficult, “evaluation” of my transition. It is extremely welcome. I respond below. Evaluation METHOD ACTING… “Wearing your heart on your sleeve” Smiling when greeting people with the body language representing comfort and happiness represent a ‘warm and healthy attitude’… “What ever others think […]

using video to help feminize my walk, posture, voice, and body language (part 1)

I bought a video camera today so that I may film myself walking to see how better I can feminize how I carry myself. I’m looking to project poise and feminine power, of course, and to deliver a sexy strut! Using the camera will also help me work on posture, correct sitting, and giving presentations […]