Here I document the process of becoming Emily.

My goal is to inspire and strengthen anyone who will listen, particularly transgender individuals, our loved ones, and the professional community that serves our needs.

But really just to inspire anyone.

And also to provide data. Sociological theories (especially feminist theories) need revision due to their general exclusion of transgender experiences. When applying the the scientific method, new data drives effective theoretical revision. Narratives provide data.

Just some background: I once used a different name and pretended to be a man. Didn’t work out too well for me. I have a penis and likely have XY chromosomes. Though the hormones I take have attenuated them, I have male secondary sex characteristics. I publically declared myself a woman and started living as one in July of 2015.

I aim for an extremely honest and intimate delivery of this content—will hold nothing back! This blog and book will be:

  1. Joyful
  2. Loving, caring, affirming, and validating
  3. Spiritual
  4. Scientific
  5. Pornographic
  6. Psychological
  7. Psychosexual
  8. Uplifting
  9. Feminist
  10. Courageous
  11. Fashionable


Some of the questions and contradictions I’m wrestling with in this space are:

  1. What defines a “woman”? When does a person become one?
  2. What defines a “lady”? When does a person become one?
  3. Why do I simultaneously resist and support the patriarchy?
  4. When you are a woman, and you are sexualized for being transgender, what does it mean? How does it differ when that attention comes from a man than when it comes from another woman?
  5. How much male privilege does a transwoman retain?
  6. How does one go from being gynophilic to bisexual?
  7. How does the experience of love evolve when you cross gender lines?
  8. How much of gender is actually social construction? What is actually biology?
  9. Validation?  (Both the need for and desire to give it).
  10. How much of what I’m experiencing is due to being a woman, and how much is unique to being a transwoman?


Becoming Emily is not an end in itself; it is an ongoing process. To limit the scope of my writing, I intend to discuss my life up to my legal transition, my life living as a woman since legal transition, and my work to fulfill my goal of becoming a “lady” (which I will define [for me] as this writing proceeds).


The background image used for this blog comes from https://www.pexels.com/photo/water-blue-ocean-dark-blue-37487. I darkened it.