a non-linear and holistic work ethic

I started working out a holistic map of my work ethic and work values, and quickly found that linearity failed to cut it. Essentially, I need to capture the interdependencies between spiritual, social, and financial wealth. More importantly, I need to illustrate the crucial balance between these factors. Enter non-linear system dynamics: Simulation, based on […]

why we still need cyberpunk

William Gibson penned Neuromancer over thirty years ago, and the 1990’s ended viciously on 9/11. With the exception of cyberfeminism, I wrote off “cyberpunk” as an ethic once we as a society stopped saying “cyber” and replaced the word with “online”. Yesterday I traced partial assets of an individual I distrusted—and needed the straight dope […]

surgical bomb

I’m arming you against me, an expression of tremendous respect. You know I study communication, marketing, and propaganda. You know I constantly refine seduction technique. You know I wield language like a surgical bomb. So I’m surrendering to you information that enables you to see right through me should I attempt any of these techniques […]

teaching joy (part one)

A conversation with a friend today illuminated my burning desire to teach existential joy to anyone who will listen. Unfortunately, we agreed that this cannot be distilled into a recipe—that everyone must custom-make their own solution to joy’s perceived scarcity. But we also agreed that I can succeed at the teaching process through the following […]

mathematical coolhunting

I aim to become the Timothy Leary of data scientists! Intuitive coolhunting scales poorly. Here’s some math to help fix that problem: Axioms of cool Five axioms enable us to mathematically model cool: No one is intrinsically cool, individuals simply channel it. Ability to temporarily hold coolness varies by individual. Coolness naturally flows into some […]

how to validate someone who won’t talk with you

We occasionally find ourselves in the situation where someone we love deeply refuses to communicate with us. In this video I present six strategies for transmitting validation across the divide. (A text version of this content is available here). I sincerely hope you find this material useful in your own life! Please let me know how […]

power and the art of seduction

In my last post, “power and sexual technique”, I urged women to gain leverage in their romantic relationships by increasing their skill in bed. More importantly, I developed this idea as a strategy transgender women may employ to decrease their overall marginalization—to help close the power differential that exists when straight men sexualize us for […]

ten ways to deliver class (part #1)

“Class” strategically combines humility with knowing you stand a cut above the masses. And now we begin writing about class. “Class” is: Knowing when to lead and performing it gracefully. Knowing when to follow and performing it gracefully. Returning your shopping cart to the requested place. Realizing the full humanity in those who serve you […]

how to validate someone who won’t talk with you (text version)

(A video version of this content is available here). In my post “on love“, I describe active validation of one’s beloved as a key tactic for transmitting constructive love. I further discuss how that validation must express in terms of things eternal, rather than in terms of the one sending the validation. In other words, […]