This article was first published on the fashion blog Mad Hot and Artsy on 20 November 2018. Special thanks to them for featuring my content!
To satirize my proud (and adopted) feminine modality, I developed a personal clothing style I call “lace punk”, “satin punk”, and/or “petticoat punk”. It carries steampunk, burlesque, and pin-up influences; and emphasizes poise, class, and elegance. In other words, I give the appearance of “high class”. This combination kills when combined with sound posture and a confident stride—my satire has since evolved into a robust display of raw power.
Key elements involve millinery, corsetry, lace or satin gloves, heels, and frequent appearance in gowns.
The “punk” in all this is me: Accomplished hacker. Cyberpunk. Skilled guitar shredder. Free-thinking anarchist. These outfits tweak guys’ expectations when I talk engineering circles around them—“geek chic” never celebrated femininity quite like this.
Transgender women typically sport great legs, due to pre-HRT (hormone replacement therapy) muscle development combined with post-HRT muscle shaping. The result stands out!
So flaunt those legs girl!
I never wear pants.
And remember that high heels will further accentuate your legs! For tips and video on successfully living in heels see my post “the trick to walking in heels…”. Confidence forms the key ingredient—you must emit badass!
Setting an Example
To encourage you, let me now walk the walk (pun intended):
Sometimes circumstances require that you calculate your position using no information other than knowledge of your previous direction and distance traveled. Of course, this statement specifically refers to marine navigation, but it serves as a rather good metaphor for life and leadership.
Two years ago I became “Emily”, drawing courage only from deep confidence in who I was. In other words, I solidly built upon my “previous direction and distance traveled”. But I had no clue how things were to unfold, and the way they did unfold completely surprised me.
Leadership is often like this. Sure we try to acquire as much data and metrics as possible. We try to collect others’ narratives and experiences to guide us. But sometimes we must dead reckon: Sometimes we proceed with only our own internal reference points—our intuition—our knowledge of previous direction and distance traveled.
The trick to walking in heels is to act like you own the world.
Videos to Help You Master the Art of Wearing High Heels
There’s technique involved: I compiled a video playlist to help you learn the it, including a video focused on the specific needs of plus-sized women:
Pair bright and/or expressive shoes with otherwise “blah” outfits to really light up your presence. Show no fear!
Tall women wear heels too. Show no fear!
Don’t wear white shoes on rainy days! They just get dirty and look terrible.
Keep your feet clean if you are wearing shoes that allow others to see the bottoms of your feet! Get a pedicure if going open-toe.
Huffington Post ran a great article recommending where to shop for shoes if you have long feet: The Best Shoe Sites For Women With Large Feet. I simply provide this link to the article because Huffington Post repeatedly proves a reliable source, and because I do not possess specific knowledge about the quality of the recommended retailers.
My Workhorse Pair
For the price, I’ve found these the most comfortable. Have many pairs of heels, but this is the one I wear most often–so much that I’ve had to have them repaired once. Amazon sells them at reasonable price: